People frequently come to therapy believing they are broken. They have been told this by countless people. Over the past 33 years, I have worked with thousands of people and the majority of them don't have something wrong with them. They are just missing skills. This book is made up of education about the skills, examples and plans to learn the skills complete with exercises. Why are these skills so important? When a person lacks skills, they are set up to experience difficult situations throughout their lives. I have dedicated a chapter to gaslighting because this abusive behaviour robs people of some of the most essential skills, sets them up for emotional abuse, intimate partner violence, rape, sexual violence, physical abuse later in life. These skills make it possible for us to integrate well with others, keep a solid sense of self, self-worth and have relationships that bring all parties joy.