“Where there is feeling there can be no logic. That would be a paradox, wouldn’t it? This, in a nutshell, is why men and women do not understand each other. In reality, the ‘unspoken’ or ‘implied’ is the basis of communication, and therefore also of seduction and the maintenance of relationships”.
Why do men and women not understand each other? Why do conflicts and misunderstandings arise? Is it possible to generate more authentic and emotional connections with others?
In this short and valuable essay, the theme of the difficulty of communication between men and women is addressed. It contains techniques and solutions for finding a ‘common code’ between the two sexes: the holy grail of all success in the sentimental sphere.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Synopsis
WHY MEN AND WOMEN DON'T UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER: HOW TO FIND A COMMON CODE
Owls Are Not What They Seem
Leave no Room for Misunderstandings
The Meta-Message and the 'Unspoken': Nothing is As It Seems
Story of a Girl Terrorized by the Words 'I Love You
The Reason Men and Women Don't Understand Each Other
Men and Women Speak Different Languages
The Bad News is That You Are Already Communicating
Silences and Monosyllabic Messages
How I Turned an Introverted Girl into a Loudmouth
We only put up walls to defend ourselves
Just a Matter of Time
The Basics of Communication: Feedback
We are still today dominated by Primordial Impulses
Kindness is Revolution
Investment and Balance in Communication
The Power of Silence and Incompleteness
What matters is always what the other person understands.
APPENDIX
7 Ideal Features for Your Communication
Raising the bar (Paraphrase of Emotions)
Exercises in Emotional Paraphrasing
Do You Only Communicate With Silence and Anger?
Conflict Management in Relationships
Are You Dealing With an Introvert?
Interpreting Subtext in Communication
Why Men and Women Don't Understand Each Other: How to Find a Common Code
The Author