Challenging the firmly held belief that we must brave our circumstances and endure lifeās crises, You Donāt Have to Suffer emphasizes that while hurt is inevitable in life, suffering is not. The author explains that we can consciously choose how and how much we suffer over our own experiences and tragedies. We can experience our losses, hardships, and disappointments and let go of them. We learn to apply these insights to our separation from others, recovery from grief, relationships with our parents and children, and our own bodies.
Rather than āpour salt in our woundsāāby dramatizing, personalizing, and romanticizing events, living in the past, going it alone, and denying our needsāJudy Tatelbaum shows us how to free ourselves and see life not as a āpredicamentā but as a challenge and a gift. You Donāt Have to Suffer takes readers through the various trials and tribulations of how we suffer, why we choose to continue to suffer, and ultimately, how we can raise ourselves above lifeās challenges.