*A People Top 10 Book of 2018*
The New York Times essayist and author of We Learn Nothing, Tim Kreider trains his singular power of observation on his (often befuddling) relationships with women.
Psychologists have told him heâs a psychologist. Philosophers have told him heâs a philosopher. Religious groups have invited him to speak. He had a cult following as a cartoonist. But, above all else, Tim Kreider is an essayistâone whose deft prose, uncanny observations, dark humor, and emotional vulnerability have earned him deserved comparisons to David Sedaris, Sarah Vowell, and the late David Foster Wallace (who was himself a fan of Kreiderâs humor).
âBeautifully written, with just enough humor to balance his spikinessâ (Booklist), I Wrote This Book Because I Love You focuses Timâs unique perception and wit on his relationships with womenâromantic, platonic, and the murky in-between. He talks about his difficulty finding lasting love and seeks to understand his commitment issues by tracking down the John Hopkins psychologist who tested him for a groundbreaking study on attachment when he was a toddler. He talks about his valued female friendships, one of which landed him on a circus train bound for Mexico. He talks about his time teaching young women at an upstate New York college, and the profound lessons they wound up teaching him. And in a hugely popular essay that originally appeared in The New York Times, he talks about his nineteen-year-old cat, wondering if itâs the most enduring relationship heâll ever have.
âIn a style reminiscent of Orwell, E.B. White and David Sedarisâ (The New York Times Book Review), each of these pieces is âheartbreaking, brutal, and hilariousâ (Judd Apatow), and collectively they cement Kreiderâs place among the best essayists working today.