âWhy am I still single?â
If youâre single and searching, thereâs no end to other peopleâs explanations, excuses, and criticism explaining why you havenât found a partner:
âYouâre too picky. Just find a good-enough guy and youâll be fine.â
âYouâre too desperate. If men think you need them, theyâll run scared.â
âYouâre too independent. Smart, ambitious women always have a harder time finding mates.â
âYou have low self-esteem. You canât love someone else until youâve learned to love yourself.â
âYouâre too needy. You canât be happy in a relationship until youâve learned to be happy on your own.â
Based on her popular Modern Love column, Sara Eckelâs Itâs Not You challenges these myths, encouraging singletons to stop picking apart their personalities and to start tapping into their own wisdom about who and what is right for them. Supported by the latest psychological and sociological research, as well as interviews with people who have experienced longtime singledom, Eckel creates a strong and empowering argument to understand and accept that thereâs no one reason why youâre singleâyou just are.