Challenging the firmly held belief that we must brave our circumstances and endure lifeâs crises, You Donât Have to Suffer emphasizes that while hurt is inevitable in life, suffering is not. The author explains that we can consciously choose how and how much we suffer over our own experiences and tragedies. We can experience our losses, hardships, and disappointments and let go of them. We learn to apply these insights to our separation from others, recovery from grief, relationships with our parents and children, and our own bodies.
Rather than âpour salt in our woundsââby dramatizing, personalizing, and romanticizing events, living in the past, going it alone, and denying our needsâJudy Tatelbaum shows us how to free ourselves and see life not as a âpredicamentâ but as a challenge and a gift. You Donât Have to Suffer takes readers through the various trials and tribulations of how we suffer, why we choose to continue to suffer, and ultimately, how we can raise ourselves above lifeâs challenges.