Summary of Jay Carter's Nasty People

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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Sample Book Insights:

#1 The invalidator is a Suppressive Person who uses various suppressive mechanisms to chop away at your self-esteem. He pretends to acknowledge something you are proud of, then makes some negative insinuation about it. He feels out what you think your shortcomings are and then exploits them at calculated times when you are vulnerable.

#2 Hitler was a typical controlling invalidator. He was a brilliant man who created beautiful pictures, but he was also a killer who never looked at the dead or the dying. He drove millions of people insane and millions died in his concentration camps.

#3 Invalidation is the act of saying something negative about someone, and it can be done by a small Hitler with an obsessive need to control people and events. There are no cookbooks for handling invalidation, so you must find your own way to handle it.

#4 The invalidator is a method of the suppressive person who makes you feel uncertain about your environment for long periods of time. They may do this in any number of ways, from suddenly becoming understanding and lovable to criticism, insinuations, or suppressed rage.