Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Sample Book Insights:

#1 My husband, who was far from the nice Jewish boy I was supposed to marry, embodied most of the qualities that I had rejected in myself. He valued play, fun, leisure, and adventure over work. I had rejected these same qualities in myself, and so we were a match made in heaven.

#2 When we are children, we continue to act out our unconscious, habitual ways without any awareness of why. We only become aware of these unwanted parts of ourselves when we bring our shadow beliefs into conscious awareness as adults.

#3 I had designed a marriage for myself where there was no room for the real me. I had acted the part of the woman my husband wanted and needed me to be. But I wasn’t good enough, not even at that. So I let him try and mold me into his image of the perfect wife.

#4 Perfectionism is a shield that we use to protect ourselves from feeling shame, blame, and judgment. It is the belief that if we look perfect, live perfect, and work perfect, we can avoid or minimize these feelings.